I had my next quota to pester my dad for.... tht was a Digital camera.
Some how I introduced d topic tht v need to upgrade our old camera with a gd Quaity 1 for dis new year.... My bloody brother poked his nose in between tht it wld hav been better to hav replaced d cel with a new 1 which has a camera n can also store mp3....
hmmm me dint bother abt al dese. chinna payan thaan nu I forgave.
now comin back to d conversation wit my dad... d reason he told for denyin a dig cam was too bad.... it was tht he needs to save money for my marriage tht has a long way though!!!!!!
He jus said tht he is suppose to get atleast some 30 savaram jewels [since dis was d quantity durin recent marriage in family] + additional vettuku useful extra fittings + marriage expence....
A gram of gold cost Rs.644/-.... my God. Wat am I goin to do with 30 savaram!!! Gonna pose for an gold shop ad ? Is it not a chain, a pair of bangles and a stud made with gold enough ?
Why is dis custom of marriage stil being followed... I hav been educated n also in a good job with a satisfactory salary. Me with dese qualities alone is it not enough ?
Why shd d parents of d galz side give some home appliances also... doesnt d guyz house not used al dese... even if he is goin to live separately frm his parents [ i mean d case of guyz native bein diff frm his work place n not thani kuduthanam] , after marriage cant d bride n d groom plan properly n get al their needs ? r v not tht fit ?
Next comes the reception saree - people spend frm 20K onwards towards dis.... why? ? ?
I understand tht its lifes one time occasion n tht u need to look distinguishable, but do u need a saree for such an amt . My mom used to show her marriage saree n stil she has not worn it any where after her marriage. It cant be worn also.. since tht much heavy , bright it ll be.
den y go in for al dese ?
den comes d marriage expense... mandappam.. lunch..dinner..invitation... wat not .. Y shd a gals parent alone b burdened too much ?
Cant d bride n bridegroom share d expense equally ?
Cant v[both guyz n gals] change the mind set of todays parents saying a NO to all dese stupidity?
I hav set my mind... For my next generation kids i ll never follow al dese :D
After me arguing with my dad, he is by no chance ready to change his mind n said finally," show me a family who ll accept al ur way of talk...."
I replied as.. "ok pa done... mappalayah, na ne search pannuren" ;)
Goin in for a new relationship includes money as well ?????
why so ? A simple marriage with blessings alone frm elders n wishes frm friendz not enough ?
Is it not high time to change...
ur dad is more pragmatic. if you can get a maplai who is 'simple' [by your terms, you can get a digicam then :D
ReplyDeleteand one more-over in India two people dont marry, it is the marriage between families. even if the in-laws are good, the family talk forces the lavishness. [adhukkaga kadan vaangi lavisha spend panradha pathi sollale. if they have they spend. thats all].
seri sidela parents kitta neengale mapla thedikkarennu solliteenga. :D
Hmmm tht family talk tht forces lavishness oly shd b avoided.. atleast a try shd b made... most families do it with kadan oly.
ReplyDeleteabt mapla thedal - epdi oru nalla chance kadavul yanaku Digicam discussion appo kudukuraru na, i shd use it la... ;)
1 small correction... 1 gram gold cost Rs 866 (22 carat)
ReplyDeletekumar,
ReplyDeleteoh apdiyah... super. evlo vela kuduthu vanganuma nu thaan my kelvi.
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ReplyDeleteYevan sonnadhu onaku that all expenses shld be barred by brides family only.... i can show u where the bridegroom's family takes responsibility and also some cases where both share....
ReplyDeleteoh... Nice to hear it.I appreciate it.Even I hav seen 1 such family.
ReplyDeleteI dint say there are no 1.
I am talking about the TREND and not about the EXCEPTION